"THE PERSON WHO NEVER MADE A MISTAKE NEVER MADE ANYTHING LEARN AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE"
ACTIONS THAT MESS YOU UP AND HOW TO STOP THEM
EATING FOR COMFORT RISK TAKING GAMBLING
OVERSPENDING OCD
GOSSIPING DRUGS.
HIDING AWAY
SHOPLIFTING
GIVING OUT ALCOHOL HITTING OUT AT PEOPLE
OVERSPENDING OCD
GOSSIPING DRUGS.
HIDING AWAY
SHOPLIFTING
GIVING OUT ALCOHOL HITTING OUT AT PEOPLE
WHY SHOULD I STOP IT MAKES ME FEEL SO GOOD, I HEAR YOIU SAY ,THAT IS ALL WEEL AND GOOD BUT WHEN WE ARE FEELING DOWN THE THINGS THAT CAN GET YOU THROUGH CAN ALSO BECOME THE THINGS THAT MESS YOU UP.THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING ALONE,OR INDULGING IN CHOCOLATE OR ALCOHOL BUT THESE SHOULD NOT BE THINGS THAT WE LEAN ON TO GET US THROUGH.
INSTEAD OF GETTING BETTER YOU GET WORSE-BIG MISTAKE!! ,HOWEVER IT DOSENT'T HAVE TO BE LIKE THAT.
FIRST THINGS FIRST DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP LIKE THE HEADLINE SAYS WE ALL. MAKE MISTAKES AND THE PERSON WHO HASN'T MADE ONE HASN'T MADE ANYTHING.THE TRICK IS TO TAKE YOUR TIME AND WORK THROUGH THINGS SLOWLY .I CALL THIS THE ACT PROGRAM
WHAT IS THE ACT PROGRAM
THIS REFERS TO ACCEPT, COMMITT, TRANSFORM
1. ACCEPTING THAT YOU HAVE A PROBLEM
2.COMMITTING TO YOURSELF TO DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT
3.TACKING ACTION TO TRANSFORM YOURSELF
IT IS SO EASY TO GET CAUGHT UP IN A VICIOUS CIRCLE ,FEELING DOWN,TURNING TO SOME OF THE ITEMS LISTED ABOVE FOR SOLACE ,THEY MAY MAKE US FEEL BETTER BUT IT'S ONLY TE,MPORARY ,SO WE ULTIMATELY END UP BACK AT SQUARE ONE ONCE THIS FEELING OF COMFORT HAS WORN OFF AND IT STARTS ALL OVER AGAIN.
HAMSTER ON A WHEEL SOUMND FAMILIAR?
ALL THE POINTS SCATTERED ABOVE ARE EXAMPLES OF HOW WE CAN MESS OURSELVES UP,A LOT ALSO DEPENDS ON HOW MUCH OF IT WE ARE DOING ,FOR EAMPLE 2-3 DRINKS A WEEK IS FINE BUT A DRINK EVERY DAY SOMETIMES GETTING DRUNK IS NOT,WHILE ON THE OTHER HAND SHOPLIFTING IS NOT GOOD AT ALL AT ANY TIME
STEPS TO TAKE :
GO THROUGH EACH OF THE ABOVE 12 ACTIONS AND RATE THEM ON A SCALE OF 1 - 12
0 YOU ARE OK YOU DO NOT HAVE ANY ISSUES TO WORRY ABOUT
1-4 YOU ARE NORMAL BUT BE MINDFUL OF ANY INCREASE IN THIS BEHAVIOUR
5-8. YOU NEED TO ASSESS WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND ASK YOURSELF QUESTIONS AS TO WHY
8-12 YOU NEED TO CHANGE !!
HOW DO I CHANGE ?
ASKING YOURSELF QUESTIONS ABOUT THE THINGS THAT DO HELP AND ,MAKING ONE SMALL CHANGE CAN MAKE A HUGE DIFFERENCE TO THE WAY YOUR MIND WORKS.
HELPFUL QUESTIONS TO ASK
HOW EXACTLY DO I RELAX ,DO I READ A BOOK, LISTEN TO MUSIC ,WATCH TV.
WHAT ABOUT MY PHYSICAL HEA;TH DO I EXERCISE FEELING GOOD ABOUT MYSELF WILL HELP MY MIND
DO I CATCH UP REGULARLY WITH FRIENDS/FAMILY
DO I HAVE A DAILY ROUTINE :
-- DO I GET UP AT A SET TIME ?
-- DO I EAT BREAKFAST ?
-- DO I PLAN MY DAY OUT ?
-- DO I TRY AND DO ONE NICE THING FOR OTHERS DAILY ?
-- DO I RELAX IN THE EVENING ?
-- DO I GET ENOUGH SLEEP ?
DO I STAND UP FOR MYSELF ?
DO I DISCUSS MY PROBLEMS WITH OTHERS,CLOSE FRIENDS MAYBE MY DOCTOR ?
DO I FACE MY FEARS ?
DO I LET OTHER PEOPLES VIEWS/OPINIONS GET TO ME ?
DO I KEEP MY HOUSE IN ORDER ?
DO I MANAGE MY FINANCES PROPERLY ?
AM I PART OF ANY GROUP OR COMMUNITY ACTIVITY ?
DO I VOLUNTEER AT ALL ?
THERE IS PLENTY HERE TO DIGEST ,JUST SIMPLY TAKE YOUR TIME GO THROUGH EACXH ONE AT YOUR OWN PACE, BE TRUTHFULLY HONEST WITH YOURSELF EVEN IF IT HURTS IT IS FOR THE BEST IN THE LONG RUN.
WHEN YOU HAVE GONE THROUGH THE ABOVE LIST PICK JUST ONE TO START WITH DO NOT OVERWHELM YOURSELF BY TRYING TO DO TOO MUCH AT ONCE BECAUSE IT WON'T HAPPEN YOU WILL NOT BE IN THE RIGHT FRAME OF MIND TO DO SO.BREAK THIS AREA DOWN INTO LITTLE PIECES AND TAKE IT ONE PIECE AT A TIME.
WRITE DOWN ON A PIECE OF PAPER HOW YOU INTEND TO DEAL WITH EACH PIECE OF THE PUZZLE ,LET YOUR MIND RUN FREE NO MATTER HOW RIDICULOUS IT MAY SEEM.
STUDY ALL THE IDEAS YOU HAVE THOUGHT OF AND PICK ONE OUT OF THE BUNCH
MAKE A DETAILED PLAN ON HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS AS WELL AS HOW TO OVERCOME ANY PROBLEMS SHOULD THEY ARISE
FINALLY ASK YOURSELF
- HAVE I TAKEN ON TOO MUCH ?
- IS THIS ACHIEVABLE ?
- WILL IT TAKE LONG ?
- IS IT EASY?
- DO I HAVE THE COURAGE TO JUST GO FOR IT?
4/5 YES ANSWERS
GO FOR IT!!
THIS PROCESS CAN BE USED TO UNLOCK AND TACKLE EACH OF YOUR ISSUES
AS PREVIOUSLY STATED ABOVE TAKE YOUR TIME ,DECIDE TO MAYBE DEAL WITH AN AREA THAT YOU
THINK YOU CAN HANDLE EASIER THAN OTHERS.THIS WILL GIVE YOU THE CONFIDENCE TO KEEP GOING
AND BECOME A BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF.