ACTIONS THAT MESS YOU UP AND HOW TO STOP THEM

         EATING FOR COMFORT                                RISK TAKING                GAMBLING

                                                         OVERSPENDING                OCD            
                                      GOSSIPING                                                                                        DRUGS.           
                                                                       HIDING AWAY
                   SHOPLIFTING                                                                                                             
                                                    GIVING OUT                               ALCOHOL                                  HITTING OUT AT PEOPLE

WHY SHOULD I STOP IT MAKES ME FEEL SO GOOD, I HEAR YOIU SAY ,THAT IS ALL WEEL AND GOOD BUT WHEN WE ARE FEELING DOWN THE THINGS THAT CAN GET YOU THROUGH CAN ALSO BECOME THE THINGS THAT MESS YOU UP.THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING ALONE,OR INDULGING IN CHOCOLATE OR ALCOHOL BUT THESE SHOULD NOT BE THINGS THAT WE LEAN ON TO GET US THROUGH.

​INSTEAD OF GETTING BETTER YOU GET WORSE-BIG MISTAKE!!  ,HOWEVER IT DOSENT'T HAVE TO BE LIKE THAT.

FIRST THINGS FIRST  DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP LIKE THE HEADLINE SAYS WE ALL. MAKE MISTAKES AND THE PERSON WHO HASN'T MADE ONE HASN'T MADE ANYTHING.THE TRICK IS TO TAKE YOUR TIME AND WORK THROUGH THINGS SLOWLY .I CALL THIS THE ACT PROGRAM

WHAT IS THE ACT PROGRAM

THIS REFERS TO ACCEPT, COMMITT, TRANSFORM

1. ACCEPTING THAT YOU HAVE A PROBLEM

2.COMMITTING TO YOURSELF TO DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT

3.TACKING ACTION TO TRANSFORM YOURSELF

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IT IS SO EASY TO GET CAUGHT UP IN A VICIOUS CIRCLE ,FEELING  DOWN,TURNING TO SOME OF THE ITEMS LISTED ABOVE FOR SOLACE ,THEY MAY MAKE US FEEL BETTER BUT IT'S ONLY TE,MPORARY ,SO WE ULTIMATELY END UP BACK AT SQUARE ONE ONCE THIS FEELING OF COMFORT HAS WORN OFF AND IT STARTS ALL OVER AGAIN.
HAMSTER ON A WHEEL SOUMND FAMILIAR?

ALL THE POINTS SCATTERED ABOVE ARE EXAMPLES OF HOW WE CAN MESS OURSELVES UP,A LOT ALSO DEPENDS ON HOW MUCH OF IT WE ARE DOING ,FOR EAMPLE 2-3 DRINKS A WEEK IS FINE BUT A DRINK EVERY DAY SOMETIMES GETTING DRUNK IS NOT,WHILE ON THE OTHER HAND SHOPLIFTING IS NOT GOOD AT ALL AT ANY TIME

STEPS TO TAKE :
GO THROUGH EACH OF THE ABOVE 12 ACTIONS AND RATE THEM ON A SCALE OF 1 - 12

 0  YOU ARE OK YOU DO NOT HAVE ANY ISSUES TO WORRY ABOUT 
 
 1-4   YOU ARE NORMAL BUT BE MINDFUL OF ANY INCREASE IN THIS BEHAVIOUR

 5-8.  YOU NEED TO ASSESS WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND ASK YOURSELF  QUESTIONS AS TO WHY

 8-12  YOU NEED TO CHANGE !!


 HOW DO I CHANGE ?

ASKING YOURSELF QUESTIONS ABOUT THE THINGS THAT DO HELP AND ,MAKING ONE SMALL CHANGE CAN MAKE A HUGE DIFFERENCE TO THE WAY YOUR MIND WORKS.

 HELPFUL QUESTIONS TO ASK

 HOW EXACTLY DO I RELAX ,DO I READ A BOOK, LISTEN TO MUSIC ,WATCH TV.

 WHAT ABOUT MY PHYSICAL HEA;TH DO I EXERCISE FEELING GOOD ABOUT MYSELF WILL HELP MY MIND

 DO I CATCH UP REGULARLY WITH FRIENDS/FAMILY

 DO I HAVE A DAILY ROUTINE :
  -- DO I GET UP AT A SET TIME ?
  -- DO I EAT BREAKFAST ?
  -- DO I PLAN MY DAY OUT ?
  -- DO I TRY AND DO ONE NICE THING FOR OTHERS DAILY ?
  -- DO I RELAX IN THE EVENING ?
  -- DO I GET ENOUGH SLEEP ?

 DO I STAND UP FOR MYSELF ?

 DO I DISCUSS MY PROBLEMS WITH OTHERS,CLOSE FRIENDS MAYBE MY DOCTOR ?

 DO I FACE MY FEARS ?

 DO I LET OTHER PEOPLES VIEWS/OPINIONS GET TO ME ?

 DO I KEEP MY HOUSE IN ORDER ?

 DO I MANAGE MY FINANCES PROPERLY ?

 AM I PART OF ANY GROUP OR COMMUNITY ACTIVITY ?

 DO I VOLUNTEER AT ALL ?

THERE IS PLENTY HERE TO DIGEST ,JUST SIMPLY TAKE YOUR TIME GO THROUGH EACXH ONE AT YOUR OWN PACE, BE TRUTHFULLY HONEST WITH YOURSELF EVEN IF IT HURTS IT IS FOR THE BEST IN THE LONG RUN.

WHEN YOU HAVE GONE THROUGH THE ABOVE LIST PICK JUST ONE TO START WITH DO NOT OVERWHELM YOURSELF BY TRYING TO DO TOO MUCH AT ONCE BECAUSE IT WON'T HAPPEN YOU WILL NOT BE IN THE RIGHT FRAME OF MIND TO DO SO.BREAK THIS AREA DOWN INTO LITTLE PIECES AND TAKE IT ONE PIECE AT A TIME.
WRITE DOWN ON A PIECE OF PAPER HOW YOU INTEND TO DEAL WITH EACH PIECE OF THE PUZZLE ,LET YOUR MIND RUN FREE NO MATTER HOW RIDICULOUS IT MAY SEEM.
STUDY ALL THE IDEAS YOU HAVE THOUGHT OF AND PICK ONE OUT OF THE BUNCH
MAKE A DETAILED PLAN ON HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS AS WELL AS HOW TO OVERCOME ANY PROBLEMS SHOULD THEY ARISE
FINALLY ASK YOURSELF 

• HAVE I TAKEN ON TOO MUCH ?
• IS THIS ACHIEVABLE ?
• WILL IT TAKE LONG ?
• IS IT EASY?
• DO I HAVE THE COURAGE TO JUST GO FOR IT?

4/5 YES ANSWERS

GO FOR IT!!

THIS PROCESS CAN BE USED TO UNLOCK AND TACKLE EACH OF YOUR ISSUES
AS PREVIOUSLY STATED ABOVE TAKE YOUR TIME ,DECIDE TO MAYBE DEAL WITH AN AREA THAT YOU
THINK YOU CAN HANDLE EASIER THAN OTHERS.THIS WILL GIVE YOU THE CONFIDENCE TO KEEP GOING
​AND BECOME A BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF.
 
 

 

 
  
 
 


 
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